Stay true to you in tough times

Posted: 12:01am on Feb 18, 2012

Dear Emily,

Is it OK to be scared to open up to people? I’m terrified. Two people who I told everything to just walked out of my life right after I told them everything and I’m scared that it is going to happen again. I am afraid to open up to other people again.

Dear Leery,

There will be many chapters to your life. Each one of those chapters will have people that hurt you and then they just walk away. People come in and out of your life for a reason. Sometimes we don’t understand why they hurt us or walk away from us but we should learn something from each person that does come in and out of our lives. You have to figure out for yourself what that is. No matter what person has betrayed you, you must continue to stay true to who you are. You just have to give yourself time to find those people who truly matter. The people who have hurt you, are now your past and you have to keep on moving forward. Don’t dwell on the damage they have done to you. Feeling hurt can actually make you a stronger person. It’s now time to pick it back up and find who your true friends will be. There are other people out there thinking and feeling the same thing you are. Don’t lose trust totally because you need to give yourself a chance to find those people who are searching for you too. When you find a good fit friend, you’ll know it and you’ll be glad you didn’t give up.

Dear Emily,

I dread days like Valentine’s Day. I am single, and have been for a while, I have never felt more lonely, is that normal?

Dear Solo

I promise you that you are not the only one that feels like this. In fact, I’m right there with you. It’s a horrible feeling but instead of sitting around dwelling on it and wishing for things, make something happen. Surround yourself with people that make you happy, that’s the first step toward happiness, it also puts the fact that your single and alone out of your head. Putting yourself in an environment where there are good people only creates good vibes and good attitudes. Also, do things that make you happy. Give time and dedicate that time for just you. Sometimes we worry too much about others that we never have time to appreciate ourselves. Take time once or twice a week to take that bubble bath you crave, or eat that chocolate bar you’ve been hiding in your room, or maybe a hike in the woods. You are worth it. Give everything time, they will fall into place. You never know what could happen or who you could meet tomorrow or even in 5 years.

Dear Emily,

I haven’t had my first kiss yet and I’m a senior. Something has to be wrong with me, right?

Dear Solo

There is not one thing weird or wrong with that! It’s not bad or good. The time will come when you give up those unkissed lips! Waiting for the right time is always good, hurrying into things are horrible. Kissing is something that is really pushed and many people are just pressured into it. I think your first kiss should be something special, because you’ll always remember it, and it will be one of the stories you always will have in your memory. Take your time and make it a good one!

Emily Chertow is a high school student in central Pennsylvania who writes a monthly column offering advice from the point of view of a teenager. You can send questions to her at askemilynow@hotmail.com or mail them to Ask Emily, c/o Centre Daily Times, 3400 E. College Ave., State College, PA 16801.